Examples of questions to ask a medium in a reading.
Best questions to ask a medium about a loved one.
The number one question about deceased loved ones is: How is he or she doing? Is he/she happy? I agree, this is the most important thing to know. I have never experienced a deceased loved one who wasn’t okay or unhappy about death. On the contrary. They all talk about ‘being Home again’. So what are the best questions you can ask a medium about a deceased loved one or your Spirit guides?
Can you show me proof and signs that you are still around in spirit? You can always talk to your loved one and pick a certain object. It doen’t matter what it is. A particular flower, an animal, a rainbow; you name it. And you decide together with your deceased loved one that whenever you see this specific object, it’s your sign from him or her that he or she is around you at that moment. Your loved one doesn’t care what the object is, because it’s all about you being aware that he/she can make contact with you and say to you: 'Look, I did that! I showed you our sign. I only left my body behind but not my soul. I am still here.' It’s meant to put a smile on your face. A wink from above.
I have a very dear and close friend. She lost someone who meant everything to her. It was her child, her son. We had so many long conversations over the phone about his death and during our conversations he was always present and he gave so much information.
He talked about his previous lifetimes and her role in some of the lifetimes. They were connected in other lifetimes. He talked about the world we live in and his world. He also talked about why he died. He committed suicide. And also why he did this? This information gave my friend more understanding.
His stepfather smells him every now and then. His mother wanted also a sign that he is still around her. So she thought about a subject and she decided that their sign would be an elephant. The following weeks and months she saw elephants whenever she didn’t expect it.
One incident stood out. She was in a church and she lit a candle for her son. She was filled with grieve and she was sobbing. She turned around and she bumped into a man who was standing behind her. She apologized for bumping into him. He didn’t mind and she looked at the T-shirt he was wearing. It had a huge print of an elephant. She felt goosebumps all over her body because while she lit the candle she asked her son to please give her a sign that he is still here.
For spirits it’s a peace of cake to give us a sudden feeling and urge to look to our left or to our right, and then we see a sign. There is no coincidence. Try it for yourself and you will see that once you have decided what your sign is with your loved one, you will see the signs everywhere. Spirits gave the man with the elephant t-shirt a feeling that he had to lit a candle. To bring him close enough to my friend so she would see the sign on his shirt. The spirits love to orchestrate these encounters. They enjoy them just as much as we do.
You can ask what he or she is doing now, how does it look where he/she is?
You can also take it a step further, you can ask if you have met in previous lifetimes and what your connection was? What you wanted to learn from each other in this lifetime?
Have they met anyone, someone close to their heart who died prior to them?
Best is to let them talk. Of course you can ask any question you want. Often they have so much more that they want to share with you besides your questions. They love to bring up happy memories they shared with you or about you.
You can ask their advice, do you need to pay extra attention on something in your life that you are not aware of? They see the bigger picture. Your entire life. Your past but also what’s in your future. So make a list before you call a medium and think about what you want to ask. When you are in contact with a medium you have direct access to so much information that can be of great benefit to you.
Sometimes people ask me if it's allowed to disturb someone who is deceased? That is a great misunderstanding. When someone dies they only leave their body behind. That's all. Their soul is still present. And not against their will.
It can sometimes happen that when someone had a very complicated life, that this person can't make contact right away because they are busy looking at their life and to understand their life. What they did? How they felt? The decisions and actions that took place. They look at their life frame by frame, so that they understand and learn. They are always being helped with this in a very loving and patient way.
Also it happens sometimes when someone had a long sickbed or a long lasting addiction, they have to recover from that. Not their body (they leave their body behind on earth) but the emotional side of it. That can also occur when someone dies very suddenly and unexpected.
So that's why it varies from person to person how fast or slow contact can be established.